Five-Minute-Friday: Expect

It’s time for another not-so-regular Five Minute Friday post! Here we go!


20 days ago I got married. Wow! Me, the girl with all the issues – I got married!


We went through premarital counseling and even had a whole session on managing expectations going into marriage. But the reality is you can’t ever¬†actually¬†be prepared for marriage. No matter how much time we spend talking about types of things to expect and not expect, you really don’t know what to expect.

What will living with this man I love be like? Is he grumpy in the mornings? Does he leave stuff all over the place? Does he change his towel frequently?

There is no way to know these things, so it’s hard to set up realistic expectations.

So I did the only thing I could do: I held my expectations loosely. I opened my hands, rather than clinching down on only one way that we could live together happily.

With expectations held loosely, we can adjust to each other so much more easily, with no disappointment.